How is your money flowing? How are you feeling about money? What do want in relation to money? Do you think about how much you have, or don’t have, often? What kind of statements were made about money while you were growing up? Why is it that people who have a lot of money can make it so easily and those who don’t have it, continue to go without?
These are some of the questions I have asked myself for years and I am becoming so schooled in “attitude” that I thought I share a bit of my own journey to help explain the power of “changing our mind”.
I grew up with the idea that “money doesn’t grow on trees”, or “eat all your food because there are kids who are starving in Ethiopia”, or “money is the root of all evil”. These statements are possibly familiar to you, as most of our parents were raised during or just after the depression and the Second World War. We tend to pick up a thread of thought, and eventually it becomes a belief. Money is a subject that solicits a ton of negativity for many of us.
When I was a kid being told that I had to eat all my food because other kids were starving, prompted a question for me. I asked my mother often, “How does my eating all my food help those kids in Ethiopia?” I always wondered about that, but my mother just rolled her eyes and made me eat my food. And, if money was the root of all evil why were my parents working so hard to get some? The inconsistencies were there, but in my youth I believe that I just accepted the attitudes about money and carried on.
Growing up, we had some lean years after my parents went their separate ways. I remember declaring to the sky (God at that time) that I would never go hungry again. A bit like Scarlett O’Hara, but a powerful desire spoken to the universe by a young teenager. Imagine my surprise when I was ushered into my soon-to-be husband’s warehouse some years later, loaded top to bottom with natural foods. I was given a huge cart and directed to “go shopping”. I was pinching myself.
Now, fast forward 25 years and I have been through a lot of sobering experiences which have forced me to look at my attitude about money because I just didn’t seem to ever have enough. I was completely powerless when it came to making money and I was afraid of it to boot. I had five kids to feed and I didn’t have time to mess around with a bad attitude.
I attended a conference several years ago in Washington, D.C., and one of the speakers was a hunger activist. She was assigned the task of raising funds and gave a powerful speech about money and that it has no “intrinsic” value. It’s only value is what we assign to it.
That got me thinking really hard. I realized that money was just another form of energy……
Someone I am close to said that he had read that researchers at Oxford had discovered that “money was more addictive than anything else.” My take on that is that we are all addicted to the energy of money, and our beliefs around it make it that much more enticing.
So, let’s say that money is a form of energy. It’s value is not determined by a universal standard, it is determined by us. So, when I hold a particular view or “belief” (belief is just a thought that has been thought a lot) about money, one way or another I have, essentially, given it it’s value.
If you are consistently running thoughts about money that are negative and often think that you won’t make as much of it as you want, think again. In fact, the way that you think about money effects your ability to acquire it. When you stop running those negative thoughts about money and take a hopeful stance around the subject you’ll begin to see evidence in your reality.
Try playing with this.
Go on a “virtual” shopping spree where you take a hundred dollar bill out with you to your favorite stores. As you browse the stores admiring the things that you like, tell yourself “with 4 of these hundred dollar bills, I can have that!”. Give yourself an hour or two of this fun activity, looking at things you’d like to have or would like to give away so that at the end of your “shopping spree” you’ll have virtually spent hundreds of dollars and enjoyed the process.
If you take small steps internally, great steps will be visible externally. As you soften any negative beliefs you have about money, more will begin showing up in your life… I promise.
Master coach, stress expert and online entrepreneur, Kyle King is “The Amazon Queen” and the creator of the incredible Inspiring The Amazon Within course for women, which teaches physical, emotional and spiritual fitness to women.
Additionally, Kyle is an executive coach working with major corporations, and small businesses helping them with strategic planning, team building and sales training. She is a stress expert, capable of helping her clients reverse the negative effects of stress, and depression. As a business owner, mother, writer, feminist, ancient cultures researcher, and traveler her life is a testament to her work. She lives and works in Santa Cruz, CA.