How Emotions Affect the Minds of Millionaires
August 29th, 2010 Filed under: wealth building — Wealth Building Author
Here something you may never have thought of. When you are trying to make a decision, ALMOST ALWAYS emotions will win over logic.
Simple example: I want to have a hot fudge sundae. I feel like I deserve it, I feel like I WANT it, I am frustrated with X and this will make me feel better. Now LOGICALLY, we know that the ice cream may give us a temporary high, but it is NOT good for us in the long run, and we will suffer for it later. The sugar let-down, the extra pounds, the clogged arteries and so on. Emotionally, from a feeling standpoint, we WANT it! From a logical view, it is NOT a good choice.
As I said, feelings and emotions generally have more power over us than logic. So, are we stuck with that? NO! We can do two things.
1.Change the way we ACT upon those emotions. This is good, we DO have a choice on how we choose to act. Self-discipline is a big part of that. We can spend some time and energy working on self-discipline and CHOOSING how we will act.
2.We can change our emotions. Impossible, you say? No, not at all. Thoughts lead to feelings. We CAN change our thoughts. At least some of them. You can call it self-programming. You can call it brainwashing (but intentional, voluntary brainwashing). An example of this might be reading and repeating out loud affirmations each morning, such as: I feel energetic today, Today is going to be a wonderful day, Eating healthy food makes me better.
Millionaires have the same emotions as everyone else. But they also learn how to have MORE of the emotions they want, that they like, more positive emotions. This is really easier than it may seem. And, in my opinion, it is certainly easier than having to practice self-discipline and Act in ways that are hard for us, such as turning down the hot fudge sundae.
Here are some techniques:
Post and read daily positive affirmations- you can find them lots of places- I have a set I use.
A super easy but very effective was is to listen to a CD or tape at night as you go to sleep that has a recording of positive affirmations. You can buy hypnotic ones or even make your own customized set.
Surround yourself with positive people who will encourage positive thinking and emotions. TRULY, the attitude of the people around you WILL make a difference in your thinking and emotions. Imagine yourself at a restaurant buffet: If someone says to you, wow, you made really healthy choices- I admire you; you are more likely to CONTINUE to make healthy choices. Compared to the person who says, yeah- we are eating out today- we do not have to stick to any diet!
When you ARE experiencing a negative or unpleasant or unhelpful emotion, allow yourself to feel it, experience it, then banish it. Think of it this way: is this emotion doing me or anyone any good? Do I WANT to have this emotion? CAN I let it go? WILL I let it go? And if you want, then let it go. And it CAN be gone, just like that. Best to replace with some positive emotion in its place.
Here is an example: I am REALLY mad and frustrated with my friend because he said he would X and he did not! He let me down! I am SO angry. Okay, now decide if your anger is serving any purpose? Will it help him change (maybe yes, maybe no, probably not)? Will it help you? (Possibly to see more clearly that this friend is not completely trustworthy.) So get what you can or need from the emotion, then say to yourself: okay, that is done. It is over with, I am letting it go. Now I am going to focus on my OTHER friend, and how wonderful he is and how trustworthy he is. I am lucky to have good friends!
You are not denying the negative experience or emotion, just not going to let it rule you, or remain stuck in your mind. Having it stuck there takes up your energy, which is much better used in other more productive ways.
So, let me encourage you to meet me in person at the upcoming (Oct 15-17) Millionaire Mind Intensive in Minneapolis. Personally think it is a GREAT action to take! It will be a great place to figure out your emotions and reset your financial and emotional blueprint so YOU can become a millionaire. I am Peter Szymanski, the 18 year old TeenageMillionaireExtraordinarie, in the making. http://www.teenagemillionaireextraordinaire.com.
